It's come to my attention that there are a lot of girls who think they can't wear certain items of fashion. I have a friend who thinks she can't wear patterns. She thinks they just aren't her thing. She feels her style is simple and elegant, and that most patterns just don't fall into that category.
And throughout my life, while shopping with friends I've heard the following too many times:
Friend: Oh my goodness, this top is cute!!!
Me: Try it on!
Friend: Nah, it's not my style.
Me: ?!?
I do not believe in something being "not my style." I like lots of different styles, and I can't imagine just sticking to one. I've been thinking about this and I think my ideas also show on the outside, because other people often say to me "Well I don't think I could wear this, but I can totally see you pulling it off!"
That's very sweet of them although I think they're crazy, because we can all pull it off, trust me!
The reason people think I can "pull something off" is because I act like I can. I'm not saying I'm fake or that I'm snobby, but I never think "Oh this isn't really me." I think "I'm going to make this me."
This is starting to get confusing, but stick with me!
Now, I'm not saying that we shouldn't have a style of our own, a signature look, because that is important! Someone should be able to say "Oh your style is very elegant" or "You have a very sassy style" etc... But sassy could cover a lot of styles. Example: There are sassy elements of city chic, of edgy style, of bohemian, and of preppy style. Why not dress a different style everyday, but keep a cohesive theme of doing the style with a sassy flare?
Do you see what I mean? Have a signature, but explore many styles!
For a quick example I whipped these up:
They're not the best examples but can you see how it's likely that 2 different people would wear each group? But there's still something cohesive about it all.
Also, I don't mean to go ahead and wear that ill-fitting dress that makes you look pregnant simply because you think it's cute. I want you to dress to flatter your body. But sometimes, I do wear that dress that makes me look pregnant, because I think it's cute anyways. That was contradictory, wasn't it? Welcome to my thought process! Don't say no to that Dolman sleeved top because it gives you no shape, maybe you are attracted to it because it looks comfortable, and maybe you want to give off the idea that you are laid-back and casual. Decide what your style adjective should be and run with it! Yes, it's not good to wear ill-fitting clothes, taboo even. And you may think "I can't wear that cheetah print scarf! That's going against my style" (a taboo action according to you). But I would take that gorgeous cheetah scarf and wrap it around you and say "Wear it anyways!"
The most important part is having the right mindset. I think I can wear anything I want, and then I wear it. I make it me.
I think most of us need to try and branch out more, reinvent ourselves even! Figure out whether your adjective is sassy, casual, edgy, classy, etc... And work it!